Why It is So Hard to Heal?
- billaustin
- Jan 15
- 4 min read
Updated: Jan 16
When I began my healing career in 2000, I studied with the best and most gifted healers I could find in the United States along with many other new healers. A common question we all had is: Why is it so much HARDER to heal ourselves that it is to help others to heal themselves?
26 years later I think I have a better idea as to what is going on with this or at least what my challenges were:
Lack of Experience: In 2000 I did not have a lot of experience healing. I was trained as an economist and lawyer and was working for the State of Colorado as a System Administrator, Program Manager and Project Manager. I definitely had some imposter syndrome stuff going on - which was not even a thing at that time.
Lack of Expertise: If you daily and consistently heal and clear yourself and others, over time that experience translates into expertise. Thankfully in 2000, I had been on a spiritual path for over ten years and had been daily healing myself and meditating for years. This really helped me to help clients from the beginning especially because healers attract clients with similar challenges.
The Empathy Barrier or Challenge: Most of my clients are empaths and often empaths take on a lot of negative energies from both humanity and the planet. While it is much easier to clear and heal stuff that we take on from other people, empaths find it challenging to separate out and identify what creates, causes or influences THEIR UNIQUE energetic weaknesses and imbalances.
Being Attached to Our Negative Stuff: It is harder to heal ourselves because we are attached to our energetic weaknesses, imbalances, illness and disease states. It is much easier for us to see other people's energetic weaknesses, imbalances, illness and disease states because we are detached from them energetically.
Not Being Energetically Neutral to Our Negative Stuff: In other words, we are not energetically neutral to or we easily get triggered by our stuff which creates energetic blind spots. Before you can fully heal something, you first have to identify what the actual cause or source of the healing challenge is. It is especially hard to identify your personal, unique healing challenges and causes if you are an empath.
Impatience and Not Being Able to EASILY and QUICKLY Heal Our Negative Stuff: Many people confuse the DESIRE to heal with the CAPABILITY to heal. While we all can develop the ability to heal and clear ourselves and others over time, it is a challenging skill set for most of us and like all skills some people are naturally better at it than others. It takes longer to heal ourselves when our innate talent to heal is weaker than we would prefer. We all have limited time and energy, so often it makes more sense to focus upon developing the innate spiritual gifts you are good at and delegate the rest.
Resistance to Healing Ourselves and Others: I personally DID NOT want to be a healer and while I understood the power of energy healing I resisted this as a career. I realized in 1994, that I was a very strong empath and I knew working with clients would translate in me taking on their negative patterns and it MOST DEFINITELY DID. I also had a great, stable government job with good benefits that I was very attached to since I had dedicated a lot of my time and energy into that job.
Difficulty Learning How to EFFECTIVELY Heal Themselves and Others: When I was studying energy healing modalities with other students, energy healing has always felt very natural to me like common sense. It was so simple, I didn't understand why so many of the other trainees struggle to understand and use the healing modality we were studying.
NOT Asking for Help: Whenever I get together with other healers, many people express their frustration about how hard it is to identify the root causes of sources of negative stuff within themselves and their clients. When I get stuck, I ask my guides and angels for help and they usually come through unless it is valuable to my soul to learn why. And if I have problems clearing and identifying what causes the problems, I begin clearing anything and everything around and relating to the problem and by a process of elimination I can often get the true cause and clear it out or at least hugely weaken it.
Feeling Responsible for Healing Our Clients: A lot of healers get very freaked out because they view their job as healing the client and when healing does not occur they take it personally and feel they have failed. They often want to save and rescue others. I BELIEVE THAT THE ONLY PERSON THAT CAN HEAL THEMSELVES IS THE PERSON YOU ARE WORKING WITH. A lot of people who say that they want to heal and ready, able and willing to heal now really aren't. Usually it takes a huge crisis generating an immense amount of pain to get someone truly committed to healing.
I still remember my first healer training course. I was terrified because I was so afraid I wouldn't be able to learn how to heal. Ironically I became the star pupil in our small training class largely because I awakened a lot of the clearing and healing skills I had developed over numerous past lives a healer.
After that excelling in healer training became a new norm for me, I expected to excel when getting trained and that became my vibrational reality. Which suggests to me that healing ourselves and others at core is perhaps more about mindset than most people realize.
